Failing At Life Right Now? Relax, It's Not The End All

We all fail. It’s a fact of life. We fail, we make mistakes, we make bad calls (like maybe I shouldn’t have eaten all of the cake last night)- but what’s truly important is how we recover from those bumps in the road. You may not get it right the first few times, or even the first ten times, but keep trying, because you will succeed.

You may be skeptical of this if you’ve recently experienced one too many bumps in your road- I get it, I’ve been there (maybe still am a little). However, there is nothing more rewarding than being able to say you’ve gotten through x, y, and z and have landed where you are today because of what seemed like a huge failure at the time.

If you’re currently battling a rough patch on your journey called life, I’m not saying there is some magic quick fix. There’s no ’30 days to a less shitty life’ shake that you can take. But, there are some steps that you can take to get in a better state of mind (because I know you’re probably stressing), and eventually into a better place in your life.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back out there.

So yes, that guy cheated on you and you are failing three classes- cry about it (you’re allowed to), but then it’s time to get yourself together. You won’t want to, you’ll probably want to continue moping on the couch with your bag of chips and rom coms, but you need to get your shit together. Those classes aren’t going to fix themselves, and that guy is clearly not worth you ruining the other part of your  life for.

What can you learn from all of the trial and error?

Okay, you’ve tried dieting a million times and it hasn’t worked. You’ve applied to a million jobs and heard nothing back. You keep failing your math exams. Instead of letting this trend continue, take a step back. Ask yourself what you can learn from these mistakes, ask yourself what you could do differently if the same old isn’t cutting it, and then get to work.

Advocate for yourself.

If a failure or mistake has occurred in your life at the hand of someone else, it may be time to stand up for yourself. If you feel like a failure because your boyfriend cheated on you, A) Don’t because you didn’t do it, B) even if this guy won’t give you the time of day-tell him what’s up. Explain to him how what he has done has affected you, then move on to bigger and better things.

Move on, you’ve done the best you can.

The only way you are going to change your current situation after what feels like a major blow to your life, is to move on. Forgive yourself or whomever has caused this bump in your road-and then make a plan on how you are going to overcome it. There is no sense in beating yourself up for the rest of eternity just because something didn’t work out.

Failure is never the end of your story. Maybe it’s a messy middle plot twist that you wish you didn’t have to go through, but it’s never the ending. So, if you’re feeling like life is caving in around you-remember it’s not your end. Stick to your story, your journey-what ever that may be. And just because your car broke down, you didn’t get your dream job, you failed an exam-it’s all okay, your world will not end. As long as you keep pushing forward-you’ll cross that finish line.

3 Reasons You Should Try Something New Once A Week

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Do you find that you typically do the same routine every week? Wake up, breakfast, work (or school), maybe the gym, come home for dinner, binge watch some show on Netflix, go to sleep, and start it all over the next day?

Most of us can say that we fall into that pattern. It feels comfortable. It’s what we know. We know what to expect, we know the people we’ll see and speak to each day, and there is a sort of safety net in that predictable day to day life style. 

But, what if we just tried one new thing each week? Maybe it’s a fitness class you’ve been wanting to go to, but haven’t had the courage. Maybe it’s a networking event that you’re too shy to attend. Maybe it’s a new recipe that you think will just end up turning out bad.

Eliminate the ‘what if’s’ and the ‘maybes’, and you could experience some really amazing, different, and fun things once a week.

That means that even for just one hour of your entire week you are; getting out into the world around you, putting yourself out there, and encountering new people, things, culture, food (why would you pass up eating?), etc. So, why not try?

Experiencing something new will break you out of your ‘comfort zone’.

I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again-COMFORTABLE IS NOT FUN. Stop sulking on the couch after work, and get out there! That sounds scary, I know. Your ‘comfort zone’ is there for a reason.

You’ve built yourself into a bubble where you can always know what to expect. But where’s the fun in that?

By breaking out of this bubble you’ve created for yourself you lend yourself to so many new and different opportunities. Sure, some may not be all that great. But, at least you tried them.

You can meet new and like-minded people.

Do you ever feel like the people closest to you don’t appreciate the same types of things you do? Or maybe they don’t encourage you to try the things you’re yearning to in life. Well then, it’s time to start encouraging yourself.

Be your own best friend- get out there, and try that intense boot camp class you’ve been eager to try. There, you may just find the right group of people to motivate you to keep going.

Of course you can still keep those closest to you in your life, but now you have another group who supports your new endeavors into a fitter you, or whatever adventure you may be trying.

You’ll experience a new sense of excitement in your life.

Routines are great. They keep you in check, on track, and organized.

However, at some point they also stop you from stepping out and doing something different.

But, by doing just that you will allow a new sort of happiness, excitement, or thrill into your mind, body, and soul that you didn’t know was possible beforehand.

It’s not always about what looks best on your Instagram feed, it’s what fuels your mind and soul. How will you know if you don’t get out there?

 

So, why not get after it? Wanted to sign up for that intense half marathon this year even though you can’t run more than three miles? Do it. Challenge yourself to get there.

What have you got to lose?

3 Ways to Own Your Success Like The Badass Taylor Swift Wants You to Be

“I’m intimidated by the fear of being average.”

Taylor Swift, in my opinion, gracefully accepted album of the year award for her 1989 album this past February at the Grammy Awards (Yes, I know the buzz over this topic is over but I still have all the feels for this). The controversy over what she stated in her speech, who that speech was really about, and why she even won that award in the first place took up majority of the headlines post-show.

However, if you ignore what she was wearing, her performance, who should or shouldn’t have gotten the ‘Album of the Year’ award, and actually listened to what she said you would realize that we should (whether you like her music or not) be listening to Taylor Swift’s advice, rather than figuring out who she was talking about.
She says,

“As the first woman to win album of the year at the Grammy’s twice, I want to say to all the young women out there: there are going to be people along the way who will try to undercut your success or take credit for your accomplishments or your fame,”

“But if you just focus on the work and you don’t let those people sidetrack you, someday when you get where you’re going. You’ll look around and you’ll know it was you and the people who love you who put you there and that will be the greatest feeling in the world.”

An amazing closing to (in my opinion) a much deserved win, because let’s face it-she put in the work to make that album what it was. She created that music, the vision, the outcome.

Swift of course had her squad behind her for support, but she did not let anyone sidetrack her from becoming the success that she is today.

And, neither should you. Take Swift’s speech, and apply it in your own life. You’ll find that only magic can come of the following;

Advocate for yourself.

Did your boss, professor, colleagues, or whomever try to dismiss a really great idea? Maybe they completely took credit for your flawless presentation at work. Maybe they stole the show and told you someone else should have your job.

Well, now it’s time to stand up for yourself.

You deserve the spotlight every now and then for the hard work that you put into your work. Advocate for yourself, don’t let that spotlight shine on that one guy in the group project who did nothing but get’s the A.

Don’t let them get in your head.

Like T. Swift has obviously experienced, there will be sh*t talkers, probably a lot of them.

They will tell you what you should or should not be doing, that you’re not good enough, that your work is not up to their standards.

Take it with grace.

Then, go work your a** off some more, and prove it to yourself that you are better than the sh*t talkers who do just that-talk.

Stay true to yourself.

Through it all-whatever you are working hard for, don’t forget to stay true to what you believe in.

They’ll try to sway your opinion, tell you to do X instead of Z, criticize you-but don’t let that stop you from being you.

You have a goal or a dream that you wish to accomplish, so do it. Go for it. It may not be as large scale as winning album of the year, but that doesn’t matter.

What does matter is that you do it, no matter how many people try to push you off course. Stay true to your goals, and you will succeed.

The one’s who support you, they’ll understand the blood, sweat, and tears that you’ve put into your work. And, just like Tay says-that’s what matters.

Those are the people that will matter, and will be there cheering for you at the end. So, remember who you are through it all, remember who stuck by you even if your ideas sounded insane, and forget about the one’s who tried to derail you from your success.

Take Taylor Swift’s advice. Change career roles, dye your hair flaming red, eat that chocolate cake-but don’t let anyone step in your way while doing it.

Own your experiences, own your choices, and own your success.

Because ultimately, they are yours to keep.

Not In Love With Your Life? Stop Playing It Safe

 

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“I only see my goals, I don’t believe in failure”

At twenty-four, I’m clearly still learning a whole lot about life. The ups, the downs, what really matters, and what doesn’t-the list goes on.

What has been made crystal clear for me sounds simple, but seems to be one of the most difficult decisions: doing what we love.

See? Doesn’t it sound like a piece of cake, and yet there are so many of us out there going day in and day out with a job, relationship, etc. that is not in line with what we truly crave out of this world.

Most of the time it is the fear of failure, the fear of doing something different, the fear that we won’t make enough money, the opinions of others-again the list is endless.

But what is the point in truly living the most passionate, exciting, challenging life possible if you’re truly not in love with what you’re doing. This can really go for anything in our lives.

You may be thinking about your career, but this can also be applied to your relationships with people in your life, your fitness goals, where you’re living. If you don’t wake up every single morning excited about the day before you (okay, I know not every morning is going to be rainbows and unicorns but still), then isn’t it time for a change?

Be brave, step out of your comfort zone.

Our comfort zone is just that, comfortable. A cozy blanket that we don’t want to be taken away from us on a really cold night. But sometimes, you really just need to rip that band aid off and step your game up.

Safe is comforting, and great. But, what if you could do something that truly opened your mind, body, and soul up to amazing opportunities? Wouldn’t that be worth ditching the warm blanket for?

Settle for nothing.

If you are miserable going to work every single day, change it. Maybe you can’t quit right now, but start thinking outside of the box.

What can you do to make each morning a little more bearable? Can you cut out an hour of your day to start applying to new jobs (yes, you can!).

Do not waste your talent, or your passion for this crazy life for a mediocre life that doesn’t excite you.

Being a risk taker doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.

Nope, you’re not a crazy rebel because you decided to put yourself out there and try something different. It just means that you’re willing to try something new, and really open your heart and mind up to new experiences. And that my friends, is a beautiful thing.

Yes, maybe those experiences will suck. Maybe you’ll wonder why you decided to try that after all. OR: Maybe, you’ll grow as a person because of those experiences. Maybe, you’ll help someone else because of the amazing risks you took.

Not everything is going to go as planned. This past year I took a leap of faith and stopped teaching to pursue my dream of writing, and moved myself to NYC. Has it been difficult at times? Absolutely. But do I regret taking the risk? Not one bit. Playing it safe didn’t make me happy, but breaking out of my comfort zone (as scary as it was, and still is sometimes)-that made me happy.

So, try being a risk taker. It doesn’t have to be as drastic as quitting your job and moving. It could be as simple as doing something about that hole in your life that leaves you feeling unfulfilled. What could fill that hole to make you a better, happier, more passionate person?

Figure it out, stop settling, and be that risk taker.

Being in love is a wonderful, crazy, magical experience-so choose to be in love with your life.

Keep Going: Giving Up Is Not An Option

Some days, weeks, months, years-they feel never ending. They feel like a constant tornado is disrupting your life, and the black cloud over your head doesn’t want to fade away.

The sun isn’t shining, it feels like bricks are being thrown in your way, and you just want to fold.  But, I’m here to tell you that’s not an option.

I feel you-I’m dealing with the above as we speak. I’ve shed one too many tears a recently because it just doesn’t seem like life is ever going to go my way. But it will, eventually. Right now (even to me) that’s not really helping, but sometimes we need to take a back seat for a minute and think about the big picture in front of us.

Life is like a puzzle box with a million pieces inside. They all will fit together eventually, but it may take a really long f*cking time to get it. You may be sitting on that sky right now thinking that the hundreds of blue pieces cannot possibly go together. But they will. It just takes time, a new perspective, a little time away from the project- a new mindset.

If something isn’t going your way right now, think of it that way. Maybe you need a new perspective that you haven’t thought of. Maybe you need a break from the worry to reshape how you want your puzzle to come together.

Believe me, I know taking the worry, anxiety, fear, etc. out of your headspace when life is shi**y is really difficult. But, you have to try (and I will with you). Meditate, go to a yoga class, read your favorite book, go get that chocolate cupcake from your favorite bakery that you’ve been craving. Even if it’s a short break, it’s worth relieving the constant whirlwind of negative thoughts.

For me, writing this right now with my dog snuggled at my side is my break from the craziness of life. It feels relaxing to get it out, and to know that even though I feel insane, this warm big lump of love next to me doesn’t think so (or maybe he does, whatever-at least he’s snuggling with me).

My point? Everything isn’t always going to be sunshine and rainbows. I guess life wouldn’t really be that interesting if it was, right? So, when you’re at your lowest, when the tornado won’t let up, when you feel like throwing in the towel-remember that giving up is NOT an option.

The tornado will end, the right thing will come to you at the right time, and all of your puzzle pieces will come together to make a badass picture.

Be patient (which is 100% the hardest part for me, but is necessary), don’t stop pushing- you will make it.

4 Positive Changes To Make In Order To Move To A ‘Self-Loving’ You

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For most of us, it is in our nature to crave others attention, love, and approval. However, the most important thing that we seem to forget is how to love ourselves.

It may sound selfish, or even a bit weird- but it is my belief that it is essential in getting us further in this crazy thing we call life.

It’s key to learn how to take a step back, and reevaluate your choices.

Are you making the best possible decisions for yourself? Are you happy? Do you feel confident with yourself?

If the answer is No, No, and No then it is time to make some positive changes in your life.

1. Leave it on paper.

Creating a visual list of what you love most about yourself can be helpful in allowing yourself to move to a self-loving place.

What are you really good at? What do you bring to the table that others may not? Be honest with yourself. You’re not being cocky, you’re being confident and realizing your talent and abilities.

2. Start ridding yourself of situations or people that do not make you happy.

In order to love ourselves and be happy with ourselves, it is important that we associate ourselves with situations and people that can only bring us up.

If you have a friend that is a constant wave of negativity every time you see him or her, this is not going to benefit your journey to a better you. Find the people and places that are filled with positive energy, and you’ll find yourself feeling more and more confident with YOU.

3. Don’t just write it, embrace it.

Really embrace the talents that you have. The more you do something that you not only are good at but love, the deeper you will fall in love with yourself.

You’ll realize the potential you hold, and the endless opportunities that are available to you.

4. Positive chats with yourself.

This may sound weird, but we could all use a pep talk from time to time.

Here, I’m asking you to do some positive self talk. If you’re in the midst of a really bad day, talk yourself out of it. If you’ve received a negative e-mail from a coworker, talk yourself out of the self-hate.

Doubting every piece of yourself over a bad day is destructive, learn to turn it around!

The quickest way to happiness is learning to really and truly be happy with ourselves. Adopting these key changes into your life will lead you to be that self-loving, positive, enthusiastic person you know you’re capable of being. (and don’t we all want that?).

Handling Rejection Like The Badass You Are

Rejection: The dismissing or refusing of a proposal or idea, etc.

We’ve all experienced it. Whether you’ve gotten rejected by that guy you’ve been staring at in class all semester, by the school of your dreams, or from that job where you thought you nailed the interview-it’s bound to happen again and again throughout our lives.

But what I believe matters most in the face of rejections is how we choose to handle it. Of course it’s normal to get angry, cry, etc.-but do you let it affect everything you do from there on out? Do you let this rejection of something you thought was so important determine the rest of your life? Do you give up simply because you got rejected? If you’ve answered ‘Yes’ to one or more of these questions-keep reading, we have some work to do.

Last year, I applied to get my masters degree in London. It was the only thing I wanted. I wanted to be in England, I wanted to pursue my degree further, and I had my entire year planned out based on getting into this program. Then low and behold, I got turned down. I cried, a lot. This was all I wanted. This was where I was supposed to be. How could I get rejected? I fail at everything. I’m never good enough (These were the things that I kept telling myself and everyone who tried to comfort me over the rejection).

Eventually, I pulled myself out of my long lasting pity party, and made a new plan. Was the rejection hurtful? Of course. I wanted to be in London more than anything, and more I felt a serious pull to be there for some reason. However, now almost a year and a half later I am so grateful for that rejection letter. Weird, I know. But had I gone I would have gotten my masters in a field I am no longer currently pursuing (which has nothing to do with not getting into the program mind you), I moved myself to NYC, I got to meet my awesome boyfriend, and have had so many amazing experiences and opportunities since. (And I’m going on a trip to London in a few months, so there rejection letter!)

My point? That sometimes that phrase, “Everything happens for a reason” is actually really accurate. Have I been rejected from things since then? Most definitely. But now, I have learned to handle it a bit better. Of course I may still shed a tear or two (I’m a cryer I can’t help it), but I don’t let it stop me anymore. I don’t say, “I should give up” just because of that one failure. And neither should you. Because if that guy doesn’t want to go out with you, there’s someone better waiting for you. If you didn’t get hired by that job you wanted so badly, just wait and keep working-there will be a better one around the corner.

Don’t let rejection get the best of you. Take your day to have a pity party, and then stand up like the badass you know you are and move on to a new solution.

Never stop working towards your goal, never stop reaching for your dreams. Everyone is going to fail at something. But it is all about walking out of it with grace, strength, and a good attitude.

Rejection wants to bring you down, don’t let it-let it inspire you to be the best you can be.

 

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Shout Out To My Squad: 3 Reasons You Keep Me Grounded

 

Many people I know were lucky enough to have an older or younger sister to bond with, grow up with, fight with, learn from, and love. However, I was given a life filled with two older brothers whom I love, but just don’t get me the way a sister may. Luckily, I didn’t have to go through my entire twenty-three years on this earth without a sister (or three). For ten years now I have been blessed with my soul sisters. No, they’re not biological sisters, but to me-they are most definitely family.

Who can say they’ve had the same best friends for ten years of their life? Do you know how many different life events have happened in that time? Between high school drama, moving to college, boyfriends, new friends, graduating, losses, traveling, moving to different cities, landing big-girl jobs- we’ve been through it all.

In that time, I’ve grown into a much different person than I was in high school when I first met my girls. We’re all so different than we were back in that awkward life stage. But, we grew into these amazing women together, and that’s what I think is so beautiful about our friendship. Despite rough patches in our own lives, we’ve picked each other up. Despite being countries apart, we supported each other. Despite now all living in different cities, we still know how to get together and have a rage of a time.

Three girls who know how to keep my life full of love, and this is why I’ll never let them go.

I can always count on them.

People always say that, but I can literally count on them in a moments notice. Our group text blows up all day, and never ceases to leave me smiling if I’m having a shitty day. I can call them individually with different problems, and they always know the right things to say. My dietitian friend? She gets all my health questions (but she loves it). If I need someone to calm my ass down, my calm, cool, and collected girl is there for me. If I need advice in finances or career, my hard-working (not that they all aren’t!) savvy lady is by my side.

 

They push me to be better.

Nothing stops these ladies from getting where they want to go, and they inspire me each day to keep chasing my dreams. That is what friendship is to me. They never weigh me down, or disregard my goals. Each of my sisters is hard-working AF, they never ever give up, and NEVER let me give up on myself. I’m grateful everyday that I have friends as motivated as they are, because without them I may have given up on a lot of adventures!

 

We’re all so different, dysfunctional, and insane-but we make it work.

Between our personalities, crazy schedules, absolute weirdness, and all the other things that come along with us- we always have the best times together. We make it work, we balance each other out, and in the end, I am literally in pain from laughing so hard when I am with them. We all have our different traits that we bring to the group, to form this amazing bond. We know how to party, we know how to cheer each other up, we know how to celebrate our accomplishments-we just get each other, and that to me is amazing.

 

We’ve traveled out of the country for one another, across the country for one another, city to city for one another, and have been one some insane adventures together. Ten years of friendship, ten years of laughs, tears, celebrations, and an unbreakable bond.

So here’s to you, to my soul sisters who forever keep my life full of sparkle, sunshine, laughter, and unconditional love.

3 Non-Traditional Valentine's Day Dates to Do With Your SO

If you’re anything like me, being handed a stuffed teddy bear, heart-shaped necklace, and heart-shaped box of chocolates on Valentine’s Day is not your thing. That teddy bear will inevitably become my dogs toy, that necklace will never be worn, and those chocolates thrown out. I’m not a cynical brat, but like to be more realistic when it come to the holiday of love.

In my opinion, Valentine’s Day was way cooler when we were kids, and that’s how I want to remember it (except with a little booze mixed in this time). I want those cool little V-day Spiderman themed cards we used to get in class, and to celebrate with a party full of cupcakes and cookies-with zero expectations on the side.

Valentine’s Day is supposed to be fun, regardless of if you have someone special to share it with. So, if you and your significant other are in the same boat as me, here are three dates for a not so traditional Valentine’s Day night.

1. Netflix, Burgers, and Cheap Wine

Ever heard of a better combination? Me either. Why bother going out to a fancy restaurant, where the wait will be hours long, and the food mediocre at best when you could sit on your couch with a loaded bacon burger and $8 dollar bottles of wine? Yes, bottles of wine-not $8 glasses. You can re-watch endless episodes of The Office (and swoon over Jim & Pam’s relationship), get drunk, and get some bomb-ass food with the one you love. It’s basically the adult version of that Valentine’s Day party you had in elementary school.

2. Wine, Beer, or Liquor Tasting

If you have this option around you, it’s the perfect date night out. You can learn some new info about your favorite wines or rums, fall in love with a new brand of alcohol, and share in the tasting fun with your SO. Follow this with a not-so-classy dive bar where you’ll again find some greasy delicious food to pair with that tasting you just did, and some more cheap drinks. You get the best of both worlds in this date with a little class from your tasting, and a little low-key with your dive bar. You can’t go wrong.

3. Chefing it up in the kitchen together.

So, if you’re trying not to spend the money on Seamless orders or a night out-find a cool recipe you’ll both like, grab some ingredients at the store, and get cooking together in the comfort of your own home! Cooking together can be a really fun night, even if the end result isn’t what you hoped for (in that case you may have to find a coupon code and hit up Seamless). You can pair this date with those $8 dollar bottles of wine (because what’s better than that?), try something completely different, and again enjoy the no-expectations casual night ahead.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be all about roses, stuffed bears, chocolate, and sappy hallmark cards. It’s important to remember that you’re lucky to have this person in your life every day, and just so happen to get a holiday to celebrate it. The day shouldn’t be full of expectations like, ‘Is he going to say ‘I love you’ tonight?’, or ‘Will she love this diamond necklace?’. Let those go, enjoy each other’s company, binge watch The Office on Netflix, drink cheap wine, and remember why you’re with this person.

If you’re single on this day, the dates listed above are some awesome things to do solo, or with your best girl or guy friends. That’s the beauty of the day, you can celebrate it in any way you want-you can celebrate how awesome the guy you’re hooking up with is, how kickass your friends are, or how much you love your significant other. However, I think it’s more fun to do so with Spiderman themed Valentine’s day cards, burgers, and alcohol.

As Seen On MOGUL: https://onmogul.com/stories/3-non-traditional-valentine-s-day-dates-to-do-with-your-so

3 Signs It's Time To Let Them Go

Letting someone out of your life is no easy task, whether it’s the person you’re dating, a best friend, or a family member. Odds are, that person has been in your life for years, and the thought of removing them from your world sounds slightly terrifying.

However, there comes a time when you need to face facts. If you’re considering letting this person go, then it is quite obvious that there is a reason you two should be apart. Maybe it feels like (and is true) that he or she no longer supports you, maybe all you do when you’re together is fight, maybe you’ve grown up and they haven’t, or maybe you’ve simply grown out of this relationship in one way or another.

Whatever the reason, it is a hard truth to come to terms with. But, the relationships we keep should be ones filled with joy, support, laughter, love, and a true connection. If you don’t have any of those anymore, what do you really have?

If any of the ‘maybe’ situations ring true for you right now, it’s time to ask yourself why you are still continuing to tangle your world in this other persons. So, follow the signs and ask yourself:

1. Is this person toxic?

This is a hard question to answer, but once you dig a bit deeper it will become clear. If all you do is fight, name call, spill over with jealousy at this persons every move, don’t receive the support you need, etc.-this person is a toxic element in your life. There is no reason that you should keep them around when all they have to give is a bad taste in your mouth.

2. Have you grown out of said person?

Also, another tough question to answer. But weed through the conversations that you’ve had with him or her. Do you have similar beliefs in this crazy world? Do they have as big of goals as you do? Do they want to chase dreams, travel, and get as much out of life as you do? If the answer is a big no, no, and no-then what do you have to gain from this relationship? If they aren’t on the same page as you, how can they support you?

3. Do they make you happy?

Pretty simple question. Does this person make you feel pure happiness when you’re together? Can you just sit in silence and be content? Does their name popping up on your phone get you excited because you love hearing from this person (Sorry, you got a bunch of other questions added on to this one)? These are serious things to consider when you are on the fence about keeping someone in your life.

Letting go of the one’s that once made us smile, that once felt like the only person we could turn to, that once made us happy-it’s not easy. However, like I’ve done in the past-I would rather remove a toxic person from my life (no matter how difficult, sad, and hurt you may feel while doing it), than lead a life with someone who brings me nothing but bitterness, sadness, and harm.

Your happiness is important too, never forget that.