Bow Down To The Alpha Females In The Room


Until I reached my 20’s, I never really thought of myself as an ‘alpha female’. I mean, I’ve always been independent (insert Destiny’s Child lyrics here), I’ve never relied on a male (unless it was my awesome Dad), and I’ve always done what I wanted to do. I’ve always been shy, timid at times, and yet some would call me ‘intimidating’, and boys wouldn’t talk to me because of that. I had issues in relationships because I wanted to do me, and wouldn’t let any jealous boy get in the way of that. I wanted to accomplish goals, travel, experience the world, and I didn’t need anyone to hold my hand through it. 

Now, I realize that although people (manly boys) were intimidated by my independence, it’s one of my best assets-one I won’t let go of for anyone.

The ‘alpha’ female in me has grown and changed throughout the years, sometimes wanted to break down and give up, but has always stayed and pushed me through some seriously rough times. It’s broken the barriers between wanting to reach my goal and being too afraid, allowing me to just go for it no matter what happened in the end. It’s allowed me to never settle for a relationship that weighs me down, but rather one where I can have an equal counter part who allows me to be me. It holds my head up when others question my decisions, and gives me the strength I need to keep pushing.

Being an independent, ‘alpha’ women in today’s world is generally more accepted than it once was, but there are still people (men and women both) who think it’s a negative trait for a woman to have. Luckily, myself along with the other strong women in the room don’t give a sh*t what ‘others’ say, and won’t settle for the basic essentials in life.

Alpha Females are; strong, leaders, independent, goal oriented, driven, and know how to stand up for themselves.

I think these women are forgotten in the midst of everyone craving that beautiful, Instagram model with 1M followers, and other ‘assets’. These women get pushed aside while the men are congratulated for all of the successes, pay raises, and for sleeping with X amount of women (yea I went there).

But, we’re still here. We’re still pushing for what we want out of this world, we’re still aiming high. And maybe that doesn’t align with the cookie cutter life that women are told we’re supposed to have. Maybe that doesn’t fall into place with having 2.5 kids by the time we’re 25, and staying at home to take care of those kids. Maybe there’s a lot more out of this life that we crave than a white picket fence by 30.

So, here’s to the ‘alphas’ in the room. Here’s to the ladies that strive for more no matter the circumstances, and no matter the obstacles that they face. Here’s to the women that are leaders, who show that if you are driven and determined you will succeed.

And if you are one of these women, applaud yourself. Don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t be a leader, that you shouldn’t want more, that you can’t have all that you want.

Keep striving, keep reaching, don’t quit.

Experiencing 'All The Feels': Why Being 'Sensitive' Is Okay

For some of us, ‘sensitive’ is one of those words people use to describe us. Along with hot mess, emotional, and a few others I’m sure. We may seem ‘too sensitive’ to others, and naturally feel bad about ourselves when people explain us in that way. However, if you fall under this category of being labeled ‘too sensitive’ (like myself), I say GOOD. Why? Because that means you care. You care deeply, wildly, maybe sometimes a little too much, but at least you care. Whether it’s about your friends, family, job, significant other, pet, you feel what they feel.

You probably are an extreme people pleaser, a little crazy at times, and when someone hurts you, you feel it just a little bit harder than the average person.

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I get it, I’m there with you. If your loved one is hurt, you hurt with them. If your dog has to go to the vet, you feel like you’re walking into a horrible doctor’s office with them (okay, maybe that’s just me…). And when someone throws shade your way, you have a hard time taking it lightly.

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It’s a tough personality trait to deal with. We’re ‘too sensitive’, but then appreciated when we’re the only one’s there for a friend in need. We’re a ‘hot mess’, but then a welcome shoulder to cry on. We can’t seem to win, but that’s okay. Being sensitive, emotional, it makes us who we are. We can relate to our peers better, we can understand one another better (most of the time), and naturally have more empathy for others.

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But, let’s not get these characteristics confused with bat shit crazy. If you’re constantly stealing your boyfriends phone and scrolling through his texts, you’re not being a hot mess, too sensitive, or overly caring, you’re being insecure. Know when you are experiencing ALL of the feels too much, and when you need to push yourself out of the emotional chaos you’ve created. Know when you’re people pleasing is actually just turning into getting yourself walked all over. Know how to maintain the balance of wanting to please everyone but also needing to please yourself.

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My advice?

Continue to be your emotional self, be vulnerable, take others under your wing-but don’t forget to think about you.

It’s okay to care (a lot), but remember that you matter as well. Let others take care of you every now and then, pull back from certain situations if they’re exhausting all of your energy, and keep in mind that you don’t have to be the saving grace every time. You are just as important as everyone else.

The Art Of Not Settling That Goes Beyond A Bad Relationship

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I’ve realized a lot about life in the last couple of months since moving my life to Boston and starting my new job. Here are a few things that I have learned; I am not by any means a morning person, Boston traffic makes me have terrible road rage, I am a caffeine addict whether I want to admit it or not, and finally with a record eight feet of snow in the Bean I have learned to parallel park and never leave my spot open to the Southie savages.

However, if we take a more serious turn down the everyday life of this recent college grad, I have learned one very valuable lesson. Never, ever, under any circumstances should you “settle.” Now that I’ve said the big no-no, let’s talk about what it actually means to settle. When most people hear the term “settle,” they normally think of never settling for a bad relationship. But this goes so much further than that, and lucky for you I’m here to enlighten you!

In my experience, the act of settling goes so far beyond your egotistical sh*tty boyfriend. You could be settling for the wrong friend, apartment, roommate, job, or even that crappy cup of coffee you keep getting every morning. It goes to every aspect of your life. Once you have realized that little piece, you’re surely on the right track to fixing whatever it is that you are stuck in.

The dictionary definition of the word “settle” is:

1. To appoint, fix, or resolve definitely or conclusively agree upon (as time, price, or conditions)
2. To pay, as a bill
3. To migrate and organize
4. To cause to take up residence

Now, at a glance many of these definitions, if not all, don’t seem to take on the negative connotation that society has seemed to give to the word “settle.” However, being the English major that I am, I cannot let the deeper meaning here slide past me.

What I see in these four definitions is the lack of choice. They are all about paying back, resolving on something, or agreeing upon it. Where is my choice?! I don’t want to conclude my morning with a crappy coffee. I want the choice to argue and get a better one. I don’t want to resolve my work issues by telling my company exactly what they want to hear. I want the choice to stand up for myself, and have my opinions be heard (in a polite manner of course, I’m not trying to get fired here).

What is the best part of all of this you may ask? We absolutely DO have a choice. The real trick is whether or not we decide to take it or not. So, I urge not only myself but everyone to take the leap of faith and stop settling. Your friends (including mine) don’t want to hear you complain about your awful desk job, your sh*tty boyfriend (who probably thinks he’s great), your boss who won’t give you the time of day, or that crappy cup of coffee.

So, let’s do something about it. If you find yourself settling, stop it. Quit now while you’ve realized you’re doing it. If you haven’t realized it, here are a few ways you might be able to tell:

1. You complain obsessively to anyone that will listen, but it’s been six months and you’re still in the same commitment. (I.E Low paying desk job with an irritable boss, boyfriend or girlfriend who doesn’t give you the time to day, etc.)

2. You say more negative things about yourself, significant other, job, etc. than you do positive. Aka you’re a serious “Negative Nancy”

3. Simply put, you’re not happy.

If you are ever these three things, you are absolutely one hundred and ten percent settling for whatever commitment you are in. It’s probably eating you up inside, and it has completely taken over your day to day life.

If you’re waiting for me to give you a magic answer or waive a wand to make you break your settling ways, you may as well stop reading right here. I have no answer for you. As I sit here writing this I have realized that I too am settling in my life. But do not lose hope, because I have compiled a short list of steps that may help both of us break this cycle.

1. Settling for a bad boyfriend/girlfriend or friend and you’ve realized it?

Ask yourself why you’re still in the relationship. Are you gaining anything from it? Are you happy with him or her? Do have fun with him/her? Do you want to brag about them? No? Then dump them (yes, you can break up with friends too), you’ll live. You’ll even find your new happy self-emerging once you’ve made the decision to do it.

2. Settling for a downright awful job where you are not appreciated?

(I AM I AM). Well, like me you may not be able to quit immediately. But, you can definitely spare an hour, get your resume sparkling again, and shoot out some e-mails! What have you really got to lose? It’ll be hard, time consuming, and tiring BUT isn’t being challenged better than settling? Just say yes, please.

So, I beg and plead for you to join me in making a plan of attack. End this rut of bad relationships, bad food, bad jobs, bad books, bad coffee, End it if not for yourself, but for your poor friends who are tired of hearing how awful your boss or boyfriend is. We can’t walk through our lives in a haze.

Broaden your horizons! Travel, experience great food, go to a new museum, try a new profession, ANYTHING that will cut the ties that hold you to your past settling self. We should be happy, challenged, and excited. Of course there are bad days even when you’re doing something that you love. But at least you’ll have a fun job, loving significant other, or a really great coffee to drown your sorrows in when that happens. Realize it, learn the art, and stop settling.

How I Learned To Cope With Grief Through The Loss of My Pet

On this day last year, I lost my best guy-my 100lb lap dog Buddy. Not only was he a gentle giant, he was the most fun-loving dog you could ever meet. And while I was teaching him to; sit, give paw, and not drag me down the street while on his leash, without even knowing it, he was teaching me how deeply I could love. He was giving me invaluable life lessons that I didn’t even realize a dog could teach us, until he was gone.

When cancer took my  best friend’s life May 16th, 2015, I finally knew what it meant to be completely heart-broken. I had never experienced that feeling before, despite losing other loved ones in the past. It felt like our time was cut way too short, like I couldn’t go back to my parents house if Buddy wasn’t going to be there to greet me, and like I had been stripped of this bond that no one could understand.

Buddy’s passing was the first time I didn’t shove the grief down so far that it would be locked away tight, with no key. It was the first time I let myself crumble and actually feel the sadness, heartbreak, and anger that came along with losing him.

It feels like I’ve attended more funerals than the average 24 year should, having lost a lot of loved ones and friends throughout my teenage years. But in those situations I would shove that grief down as far as possible, and not speak about it. I wouldn’t share my sadness with anyone, and would just let it all turn to anger.

However, Buddy passing (and this crazy amazing dog in general), made me realize that it’s okay to feel something. It’s okay to talk about them, to miss them, to cry about it (a lot), and to reflect on all the really amazing times you had together.

Who knew it would take a really goofy golden retriever to teach me something so important?

So, if you’ve lost a loved one (even a pet), understand that it’s okay to truly grieve that loss. It’s okay to cry in the middle of a get together because someone mentioned their name, it’s okay to laugh really hard after remembering that time he got on the counter and ate half a batch of chocolate chip cookies, and most importantly-it’s okay to not feel heartbroken forever.

Of course today, I miss Buddy with every piece of me. I miss him rushing at me when I go home to see my parents. I miss him sitting at my feet snoring and having puppy dreams. But I also know that I had an amazing ten years with him, ten whole years that I will forever cherish.

No one dog will ever replace Buddy, but I know that it’s okay to continue having other dogs in my life-even if I know our time together won’t be forever. Because it’s the memories that you build while you are together that truly matter.

My giant lap dog passed on a lot of life lessons (whether he knew it or not), but I’m most grateful that I was able to learn how to actually cope with loss and the bad times because of him.

When the brunt of the grief has passed, don’t forget to remember all of the lessons learned, the amazing times you had with your loved one, and all of the pictures and memories that you will be able to take with you wherever you go.

Because how can I not smile when I look back on that face?






Failing At Life Right Now? Relax, It's Not The End All

We all fail. It’s a fact of life. We fail, we make mistakes, we make bad calls (like maybe I shouldn’t have eaten all of the cake last night)- but what’s truly important is how we recover from those bumps in the road. You may not get it right the first few times, or even the first ten times, but keep trying, because you will succeed.

You may be skeptical of this if you’ve recently experienced one too many bumps in your road- I get it, I’ve been there (maybe still am a little). However, there is nothing more rewarding than being able to say you’ve gotten through x, y, and z and have landed where you are today because of what seemed like a huge failure at the time.

If you’re currently battling a rough patch on your journey called life, I’m not saying there is some magic quick fix. There’s no ’30 days to a less shitty life’ shake that you can take. But, there are some steps that you can take to get in a better state of mind (because I know you’re probably stressing), and eventually into a better place in your life.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back out there.

So yes, that guy cheated on you and you are failing three classes- cry about it (you’re allowed to), but then it’s time to get yourself together. You won’t want to, you’ll probably want to continue moping on the couch with your bag of chips and rom coms, but you need to get your shit together. Those classes aren’t going to fix themselves, and that guy is clearly not worth you ruining the other part of your  life for.

What can you learn from all of the trial and error?

Okay, you’ve tried dieting a million times and it hasn’t worked. You’ve applied to a million jobs and heard nothing back. You keep failing your math exams. Instead of letting this trend continue, take a step back. Ask yourself what you can learn from these mistakes, ask yourself what you could do differently if the same old isn’t cutting it, and then get to work.

Advocate for yourself.

If a failure or mistake has occurred in your life at the hand of someone else, it may be time to stand up for yourself. If you feel like a failure because your boyfriend cheated on you, A) Don’t because you didn’t do it, B) even if this guy won’t give you the time of day-tell him what’s up. Explain to him how what he has done has affected you, then move on to bigger and better things.

Move on, you’ve done the best you can.

The only way you are going to change your current situation after what feels like a major blow to your life, is to move on. Forgive yourself or whomever has caused this bump in your road-and then make a plan on how you are going to overcome it. There is no sense in beating yourself up for the rest of eternity just because something didn’t work out.

Failure is never the end of your story. Maybe it’s a messy middle plot twist that you wish you didn’t have to go through, but it’s never the ending. So, if you’re feeling like life is caving in around you-remember it’s not your end. Stick to your story, your journey-what ever that may be. And just because your car broke down, you didn’t get your dream job, you failed an exam-it’s all okay, your world will not end. As long as you keep pushing forward-you’ll cross that finish line.

3 Ways to Own Your Success Like The Badass Taylor Swift Wants You to Be

“I’m intimidated by the fear of being average.”

Taylor Swift, in my opinion, gracefully accepted album of the year award for her 1989 album this past February at the Grammy Awards (Yes, I know the buzz over this topic is over but I still have all the feels for this). The controversy over what she stated in her speech, who that speech was really about, and why she even won that award in the first place took up majority of the headlines post-show.

However, if you ignore what she was wearing, her performance, who should or shouldn’t have gotten the ‘Album of the Year’ award, and actually listened to what she said you would realize that we should (whether you like her music or not) be listening to Taylor Swift’s advice, rather than figuring out who she was talking about.
She says,

“As the first woman to win album of the year at the Grammy’s twice, I want to say to all the young women out there: there are going to be people along the way who will try to undercut your success or take credit for your accomplishments or your fame,”

“But if you just focus on the work and you don’t let those people sidetrack you, someday when you get where you’re going. You’ll look around and you’ll know it was you and the people who love you who put you there and that will be the greatest feeling in the world.”

An amazing closing to (in my opinion) a much deserved win, because let’s face it-she put in the work to make that album what it was. She created that music, the vision, the outcome.

Swift of course had her squad behind her for support, but she did not let anyone sidetrack her from becoming the success that she is today.

And, neither should you. Take Swift’s speech, and apply it in your own life. You’ll find that only magic can come of the following;

Advocate for yourself.

Did your boss, professor, colleagues, or whomever try to dismiss a really great idea? Maybe they completely took credit for your flawless presentation at work. Maybe they stole the show and told you someone else should have your job.

Well, now it’s time to stand up for yourself.

You deserve the spotlight every now and then for the hard work that you put into your work. Advocate for yourself, don’t let that spotlight shine on that one guy in the group project who did nothing but get’s the A.

Don’t let them get in your head.

Like T. Swift has obviously experienced, there will be sh*t talkers, probably a lot of them.

They will tell you what you should or should not be doing, that you’re not good enough, that your work is not up to their standards.

Take it with grace.

Then, go work your a** off some more, and prove it to yourself that you are better than the sh*t talkers who do just that-talk.

Stay true to yourself.

Through it all-whatever you are working hard for, don’t forget to stay true to what you believe in.

They’ll try to sway your opinion, tell you to do X instead of Z, criticize you-but don’t let that stop you from being you.

You have a goal or a dream that you wish to accomplish, so do it. Go for it. It may not be as large scale as winning album of the year, but that doesn’t matter.

What does matter is that you do it, no matter how many people try to push you off course. Stay true to your goals, and you will succeed.

The one’s who support you, they’ll understand the blood, sweat, and tears that you’ve put into your work. And, just like Tay says-that’s what matters.

Those are the people that will matter, and will be there cheering for you at the end. So, remember who you are through it all, remember who stuck by you even if your ideas sounded insane, and forget about the one’s who tried to derail you from your success.

Take Taylor Swift’s advice. Change career roles, dye your hair flaming red, eat that chocolate cake-but don’t let anyone step in your way while doing it.

Own your experiences, own your choices, and own your success.

Because ultimately, they are yours to keep.

Not In Love With Your Life? Stop Playing It Safe



“I only see my goals, I don’t believe in failure”

At twenty-four, I’m clearly still learning a whole lot about life. The ups, the downs, what really matters, and what doesn’t-the list goes on.

What has been made crystal clear for me sounds simple, but seems to be one of the most difficult decisions: doing what we love.

See? Doesn’t it sound like a piece of cake, and yet there are so many of us out there going day in and day out with a job, relationship, etc. that is not in line with what we truly crave out of this world.

Most of the time it is the fear of failure, the fear of doing something different, the fear that we won’t make enough money, the opinions of others-again the list is endless.

But what is the point in truly living the most passionate, exciting, challenging life possible if you’re truly not in love with what you’re doing. This can really go for anything in our lives.

You may be thinking about your career, but this can also be applied to your relationships with people in your life, your fitness goals, where you’re living. If you don’t wake up every single morning excited about the day before you (okay, I know not every morning is going to be rainbows and unicorns but still), then isn’t it time for a change?

Be brave, step out of your comfort zone.

Our comfort zone is just that, comfortable. A cozy blanket that we don’t want to be taken away from us on a really cold night. But sometimes, you really just need to rip that band aid off and step your game up.

Safe is comforting, and great. But, what if you could do something that truly opened your mind, body, and soul up to amazing opportunities? Wouldn’t that be worth ditching the warm blanket for?

Settle for nothing.

If you are miserable going to work every single day, change it. Maybe you can’t quit right now, but start thinking outside of the box.

What can you do to make each morning a little more bearable? Can you cut out an hour of your day to start applying to new jobs (yes, you can!).

Do not waste your talent, or your passion for this crazy life for a mediocre life that doesn’t excite you.

Being a risk taker doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.

Nope, you’re not a crazy rebel because you decided to put yourself out there and try something different. It just means that you’re willing to try something new, and really open your heart and mind up to new experiences. And that my friends, is a beautiful thing.

Yes, maybe those experiences will suck. Maybe you’ll wonder why you decided to try that after all. OR: Maybe, you’ll grow as a person because of those experiences. Maybe, you’ll help someone else because of the amazing risks you took.

Not everything is going to go as planned. This past year I took a leap of faith and stopped teaching to pursue my dream of writing, and moved myself to NYC. Has it been difficult at times? Absolutely. But do I regret taking the risk? Not one bit. Playing it safe didn’t make me happy, but breaking out of my comfort zone (as scary as it was, and still is sometimes)-that made me happy.

So, try being a risk taker. It doesn’t have to be as drastic as quitting your job and moving. It could be as simple as doing something about that hole in your life that leaves you feeling unfulfilled. What could fill that hole to make you a better, happier, more passionate person?

Figure it out, stop settling, and be that risk taker.

Being in love is a wonderful, crazy, magical experience-so choose to be in love with your life.

Keep Going: Giving Up Is Not An Option

Some days, weeks, months, years-they feel never ending. They feel like a constant tornado is disrupting your life, and the black cloud over your head doesn’t want to fade away.

The sun isn’t shining, it feels like bricks are being thrown in your way, and you just want to fold.  But, I’m here to tell you that’s not an option.

I feel you-I’m dealing with the above as we speak. I’ve shed one too many tears a recently because it just doesn’t seem like life is ever going to go my way. But it will, eventually. Right now (even to me) that’s not really helping, but sometimes we need to take a back seat for a minute and think about the big picture in front of us.

Life is like a puzzle box with a million pieces inside. They all will fit together eventually, but it may take a really long f*cking time to get it. You may be sitting on that sky right now thinking that the hundreds of blue pieces cannot possibly go together. But they will. It just takes time, a new perspective, a little time away from the project- a new mindset.

If something isn’t going your way right now, think of it that way. Maybe you need a new perspective that you haven’t thought of. Maybe you need a break from the worry to reshape how you want your puzzle to come together.

Believe me, I know taking the worry, anxiety, fear, etc. out of your headspace when life is shi**y is really difficult. But, you have to try (and I will with you). Meditate, go to a yoga class, read your favorite book, go get that chocolate cupcake from your favorite bakery that you’ve been craving. Even if it’s a short break, it’s worth relieving the constant whirlwind of negative thoughts.

For me, writing this right now with my dog snuggled at my side is my break from the craziness of life. It feels relaxing to get it out, and to know that even though I feel insane, this warm big lump of love next to me doesn’t think so (or maybe he does, whatever-at least he’s snuggling with me).

My point? Everything isn’t always going to be sunshine and rainbows. I guess life wouldn’t really be that interesting if it was, right? So, when you’re at your lowest, when the tornado won’t let up, when you feel like throwing in the towel-remember that giving up is NOT an option.

The tornado will end, the right thing will come to you at the right time, and all of your puzzle pieces will come together to make a badass picture.

Be patient (which is 100% the hardest part for me, but is necessary), don’t stop pushing- you will make it.

4 Positive Changes To Make In Order To Move To A ‘Self-Loving’ You

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For most of us, it is in our nature to crave others attention, love, and approval. However, the most important thing that we seem to forget is how to love ourselves.

It may sound selfish, or even a bit weird- but it is my belief that it is essential in getting us further in this crazy thing we call life.

It’s key to learn how to take a step back, and reevaluate your choices.

Are you making the best possible decisions for yourself? Are you happy? Do you feel confident with yourself?

If the answer is No, No, and No then it is time to make some positive changes in your life.

1. Leave it on paper.

Creating a visual list of what you love most about yourself can be helpful in allowing yourself to move to a self-loving place.

What are you really good at? What do you bring to the table that others may not? Be honest with yourself. You’re not being cocky, you’re being confident and realizing your talent and abilities.

2. Start ridding yourself of situations or people that do not make you happy.

In order to love ourselves and be happy with ourselves, it is important that we associate ourselves with situations and people that can only bring us up.

If you have a friend that is a constant wave of negativity every time you see him or her, this is not going to benefit your journey to a better you. Find the people and places that are filled with positive energy, and you’ll find yourself feeling more and more confident with YOU.

3. Don’t just write it, embrace it.

Really embrace the talents that you have. The more you do something that you not only are good at but love, the deeper you will fall in love with yourself.

You’ll realize the potential you hold, and the endless opportunities that are available to you.

4. Positive chats with yourself.

This may sound weird, but we could all use a pep talk from time to time.

Here, I’m asking you to do some positive self talk. If you’re in the midst of a really bad day, talk yourself out of it. If you’ve received a negative e-mail from a coworker, talk yourself out of the self-hate.

Doubting every piece of yourself over a bad day is destructive, learn to turn it around!

The quickest way to happiness is learning to really and truly be happy with ourselves. Adopting these key changes into your life will lead you to be that self-loving, positive, enthusiastic person you know you’re capable of being. (and don’t we all want that?).

Handling Rejection Like The Badass You Are

Rejection: The dismissing or refusing of a proposal or idea, etc.

We’ve all experienced it. Whether you’ve gotten rejected by that guy you’ve been staring at in class all semester, by the school of your dreams, or from that job where you thought you nailed the interview-it’s bound to happen again and again throughout our lives.

But what I believe matters most in the face of rejections is how we choose to handle it. Of course it’s normal to get angry, cry, etc.-but do you let it affect everything you do from there on out? Do you let this rejection of something you thought was so important determine the rest of your life? Do you give up simply because you got rejected? If you’ve answered ‘Yes’ to one or more of these questions-keep reading, we have some work to do.

Last year, I applied to get my masters degree in London. It was the only thing I wanted. I wanted to be in England, I wanted to pursue my degree further, and I had my entire year planned out based on getting into this program. Then low and behold, I got turned down. I cried, a lot. This was all I wanted. This was where I was supposed to be. How could I get rejected? I fail at everything. I’m never good enough (These were the things that I kept telling myself and everyone who tried to comfort me over the rejection).

Eventually, I pulled myself out of my long lasting pity party, and made a new plan. Was the rejection hurtful? Of course. I wanted to be in London more than anything, and more I felt a serious pull to be there for some reason. However, now almost a year and a half later I am so grateful for that rejection letter. Weird, I know. But had I gone I would have gotten my masters in a field I am no longer currently pursuing (which has nothing to do with not getting into the program mind you), I moved myself to NYC, I got to meet my awesome boyfriend, and have had so many amazing experiences and opportunities since. (And I’m going on a trip to London in a few months, so there rejection letter!)

My point? That sometimes that phrase, “Everything happens for a reason” is actually really accurate. Have I been rejected from things since then? Most definitely. But now, I have learned to handle it a bit better. Of course I may still shed a tear or two (I’m a cryer I can’t help it), but I don’t let it stop me anymore. I don’t say, “I should give up” just because of that one failure. And neither should you. Because if that guy doesn’t want to go out with you, there’s someone better waiting for you. If you didn’t get hired by that job you wanted so badly, just wait and keep working-there will be a better one around the corner.

Don’t let rejection get the best of you. Take your day to have a pity party, and then stand up like the badass you know you are and move on to a new solution.

Never stop working towards your goal, never stop reaching for your dreams. Everyone is going to fail at something. But it is all about walking out of it with grace, strength, and a good attitude.

Rejection wants to bring you down, don’t let it-let it inspire you to be the best you can be.


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