Whether you’re young, middle-aged, old, love is always a part of our lives. Chasing love, lust, desire, ‘the one’, the one night stand, the one you can fix, the one that’ll break your heart-constantly chasing. But it’s a chase, a game rather, that we can’t seem to get enough of.
He doesn’t text, we mull it over for days. She dodges you in the halls, you decide to make her jealous with another girl. You fight like a war is about to break, and yet you can’t break away from each other. The game of love can either feel like a paradise we’ve been waiting to reach our whole lives, or like there are flames swarming through the home we built, and we can’t seem to get out of it.
The best kind of love is when you can take away the lust, the one night stands, the fixing, the control, the jealousy, the fighting-and just love. But, not all of us are lucky to find that the first time around, or the second, or the third. For some reason we don’t learn from our mistakes, we can’t take the blinders off and realize how toxic a relationship is until it’s broken us down to pieces.
I’ve been there, we all have. Not only is it a hard thing to admit when a relationship isn’t working, but it’s even more difficult to pull away from said relationship.
We all want to be loved, but at what cost? When you’re personal freedom, success, and dreams are thrown to the side for a toxic relationship, is it worth it?
I’d say, no. But I’ve also been in the haze of not realizing that a relationship wasn’t really going anywhere towards paradise, but rather towards those flames (the bad kind, that burn your shit to the ground).
So my point? My advice? Don’t let the game of love destroy YOU. You’ll know when the right ‘one’ comes along, but until then focus on your success and most importantly, your happiness.
There is no rule that says you need to chase a failing relationship no matter what, that you don’t need to be with your significant other because it’s ‘comfortable’, or because you know nothing else.
Sometimes people turn out to be something we never even imagined. They lie, cheat, and steal our happiness when we thought they would create a happily ever after for us. But, that’s okay. Because whether you believe it or not, life goes on even when you have to let those people go (and usually goes on for the better).
So, let the rain pour down, wipe away the flames, and do you.