5 Steps To Remaining Positive In A Negative Work Environment

Whether you’ve just started a new job, or are in the thick of a stressful one, finding and holding on to the positives is key. However, I’ve learned that it can be difficult AF to hold on to any sort of positivity when the work environment and people that surround you are constantly negative.

Dealing with high stress jobs or situations at work is always something I’ve been able to handle. Especially if I was experiencing them with people who were truly supportive and just fun to work with. On the other hand, I’ve also had to deal with intense jobs with negative people left and right. You know those people who at every corner you turn are shit talking on one another, non-stop venting about a hundred different issues (don’t get me wrong I love a good vent sesh, but sometimes enough is enough), and are just too wrapped up in their bad attitude to even throw you a simple smile?

I’ve come to realize in the last year (because 2016 was all about ‘realizing stuff’ according to Kylie Jenner) that you can’t maintain a healthy work-life balance if you are willing to go down the rabbit hole with the rest of your negative coworkers. Simply put, it will eventually catch up with you and hold you back from moving forward in your career and life in general.

So, I started thinking of ways that I and everyone for that matter could avoid that negative bubble that’s waiting to trap us all from the second we walk in the door. The key is to actually doing these things, you can ‘know you should’ all you want, but it won’t work unless you put those words into action.

1. No matter what, kill them with kindness.

Your coworkers may walk past you with no smile, no ‘hey how are you’, no nothing- but that doesn’t mean that you don’t have to do the same. Say good morning, smile as you walk past each person, ask how their weekend was. Spread your kindness, and it will only become infectious.

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2. Remove yourself from any negative conversations.

Venting about the never ending issues, drama, etc. can seem like it helps. Sometimes it does. But if that’s all you’re doing with your coworkers, it’s really only setting you back (you know that saying, ‘misery loves company’?). Switch up the conversation from, “I don’t want to be here.” on Monday morning to, “How was your weekend?”. However, if the venting is going on and on despite your best efforts, remove yourself from the room. In the long run, it’s not doing you any good to be around it.

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3. Leave work at work.

Wouldn’t it be great if it was that easy all of the time? This is the hardest step for me. But realistically, you’ll only become just as bad as your negative coworkers if you can’t go home and leave work in that building. Of course you need time to vent, so let yourself get it out for a few minutes to your person who will listen (aka my mom on my walk home from work, and my boyfriend when I get home…okay so maybe you need two people to vent to). But then, you need to leave well enough alone, and use what time you do have out of work to really enjoy all of your favorite things (like me taking the time to finally write this).

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4. It’s okay to not make friends with your coworkers outside of work.

Obviously it’s great to have friends at work. People who understand what you do on a daily basis, who you can trust, and who you can count on to run to the bar for happy hour after work. But if you end up hanging out with your coworkers outside of office hours and the only conversation you’re having is about work and how horrible it is (as if you didn’t already do this while you were there), then what kind of friendship is that? It’s okay to be friendly with people at work, but you don’t need to be best friends with everyone.

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5. Make your favorite activities/people/hobbies your center focus.

As much as work can take over our days, weeks and months, we have to put ourselves first (especially when that depresssing environment at work is waiting to take hold). If you have a favorite workout class, cocktails with you friends, date night, plan it all out for your week and stick to it. It’s important not to let these things that bring you so much joy slip for a place and people that tend to drag you down.


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Hello, Fitspo: 5 Fitness Instagram Accounts That Will Get You Moving IRL

Originally Published On 20Some.com

Jumping into a new year is typically centered around dieting, getting back into a fitness routine, and obsessing over the “fitspo” filling our social media feeds on a daily basis. We set unrealistic goals for ourselves, end up falling back into that pizza box face first, and start the cycle all over again.

But what if we could take one positive step this new year toward our fitness goals? What if that one step was as easy as unfollowing and following people on your Instagram? Although it won’t help you lose 10 pounds in a week (because who wants to do that anyways?), it may help bring a more positive and healthier outlook to your fitness and nutrition journey.

I used to follow a million different random accounts on my Instagram that posted pictures idolizing girls half naked with shredded abs, a thigh gap, and whatever else was ‘fit goals’ at the time. However, I slowly realized that I was never going to look like those girls, and that was okay. I purged my account of all ‘fitspo’ accounts and decided to follow real people with real stories, real struggles, realistic fitness goals that can actually inspire me to hit the gym and be a better person.

I’ve put together a list (in no specific order) of my favorite fitness Instagram accounts. These are real women, with amazing stories that they are willing to share, and that don’t promote unrealistic fitness goals.

1. @getfitbrooklyn aka Chinae

Chinae is someone that was always tagged in a lot of posts by people I had already followed. When I finally checked out her page, I was immediately drawn to her. She is a Brooklyn-based event planner, Adidas ambassador, and shares nothing but authentic posts on her social media (along with the fact that her makeup is on point). She posts her transformation pictures with advice that let’s you know there is no quick fix to losing weight, but only your determination to do so. Chinae helps others find their “inner badass” through her social media, real life advice and fitness. Follow her and add some fit-spiration (as well as lifestyle inspo) to your daily Instagram feed.



2. @lauren_bongiorno aka Lauren

Lauren is a 20something health coach and yoga instructor who shares her insights on the mind and body that really get you thinking. Lauren is someone that I have been lucky enough to meet, so I can tell you first hand that the person you see on social media is the same person you see in real life. Her positivity is contagious, and her yoga moves will make you want to get on that mat and keep practicing. As a type1 diabetic herself, Lauren has learned to take her knowledge of this, and help others dealing with diabetes maintain a healthy lifestyle. But most importantly, what she posts will not only give you the inspiration you need for your fitness life, but also give you motivation to work out your mind as well.



3. @nicolewinhoffer aka Nicole

Nicole is the girl behind NW Method which “blends art, science, music, and sports to calm the mind, transform the body, and free the soul” (and incorporates dope beats and dance moves). You’ll notice how free and confident of a person Nicole is while scrolling through her Instagram. She has photos of her in a leotard posing with an amazing dance pose, to videos of her classes (which look like they would kick my ass) that all include never ending inspirational captions. She emanates confidence with a splash of sexy, and makes me feel like with curves, or no curves, abs or no abs, I’m beautiful. If you’re in the NYC area, she offers classes at The Standard, so go get moving!

4. @reviejane aka Revie Schulz

As a crossfit lover, I’ve followed Revie Schulz for quite some time. She is an Australian-based Crossfit gym owner (Crossfit Babes Miami an all women’s crossfit gym in Australia). She is a 20something business owner, fitness enthusiast and new mom. Although you may think she’s not relatable because you’re not a new parent, think again. The authenticity that Revie shows on her Instagram about going from being able to lift a lot of weight and feeling great about her body, to feeling completely unsure after her pregnancy is so refreshing. She makes you realize that whether you just had a child or not, you can always bounce back with hard work and dedication, and a really positive mindset.

Okay, so, MASSIVE rant/ chat to my snapchat fam today (reviejane) on positive body image and how to embrace our bodies. Im sorry if that went for ages but in conclusion, here is my message. ? It’s okay to be in shock, that is normal. 90% of the time on social media, we don't see the shit part after you’ve had a baby where you still look around 7 months pregnant and your belly replicates the same texture of a whoppee cushion. ? Be proactive with your physical and mental health. It’s a huge challenge, trying to be the best mum possible and learn the ropes of motherhood WHILE also honoring your body. Its one huge juggling act and if you feel totally inadequate at it, don’t stress, most of us do! Start small, e.g. 3-4 walks per week, meal prep your dinners every weekend. Be gentle with yourself and implement fun, active activities that will get your body moving and endorphins pumping! ? Postive affirmations. You know what you don't hear often? A woman saying “I LOVE my body, it's amazing!” which is silly- we should be saying that every damn day, because we are all effing amazing! For atleast a month, look in the mirror and say something you LIKE about your body instead of picking on that pimple or that you hate your nose or that you wish you had smaller hips. It may just change your perspective and therefore your life. ? Lastly, hold that baby of yours. Look at the perfection that YOU created in that very body of yours. You. Created. Life. You are magnificent. And you should love yourself for that, let alone everything else that makes you beautiful. #BodyLove #Postpartum

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5. @mynameisjessamyn aka Jessamyn Stanley

Jessamyn is a body positive, yogi, f-bomb dropper, real AF girl who teaches yoga with Cody App and is someone you need to follow right now. I started following Jessamyn after I saw her feature with Refinery29 this past summer, and was immediately inspired by her attitude about her body, fitness, and life in general. She describes her body as powerful.

“It has overcome so many odds that I never thought it could, physical and emotional,” Jessamyn said.

If you’re looking for that body positivity you’ve been lacking in 2016, it’s time to follow Jessamyn’s Instagram.

I didn't come to yoga with a lot of natural flexibility or strength. I've always been curvy, and I've been sensitive about my body size since childhood. When I started practicing yoga, I would intimidate myself into thinking certain asana would always be completely out of my reach. I assumed that fat people have limits. I didn't understand the power of progress. I didn't understand that progress takes time. Our society thrives on impatience, and it's easy to convince ourselves of inadequacy when we don't see immediate results. I think my Instagram presence can make that internal battle seem like it's in my rearview window, but that's completely off base. Self-hate and self loathing are addictions like anything else, and stepping away from those vices means entering a permanent state of recovery. I am a self-hate addict- it didn't magically go away when I started practicing advanced asana. But those struggles shouldn't be covered up or swept under the rug. At the end of the day, those struggles are really what make us made for yoga. The practice doesn't exist to inflate egos. Legit, my ego has NEVER served me- if anything, it's consistently inhibited my capacity for happiness. I don't want to live under the shadow of my childish ego forever. That's why I keep showing up on my mat-because unpacking all this bullshit is the only work that actually matters. I love working with my #partner @mandukayoga- in fact, the ballet style leggings I wore in @glamourmag are by Manduka. In a universe where plenty of yoga brands couldn't care less about showcasing a diverse yoga community, Manduka is actually out here trying to make progress. I chatted with the design team this past winter, and I expressed my concern about their limited sizing options. Some of us can't even wink at a size Large, ya dig? The team was very receptive, and I'm looking forward to a size expansion soon. I'm just glad they give a fuck, honestly- and it's time for everyone else to wake up, too.

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