Treat Yo' Self: Balance Is Major Key


When I was growing up, my Mom was always pretty chill about letting me stay home from school occasionally. If I didn’t have anything crazy going on with tests or sports, she let me have my ‘mental health’ days as we liked to call them. If I was feeling overwhelmed, extremely tired, or just had that feeling of ‘I absolutely cannot sit in classes all day today’, she let me bail.

I would take those opportunities to lay in my bed all day reading, binge watching Lifetime movies, or hanging out with her. And although I’m not here saying ‘skip class’, ‘skip work’, ‘ditch your responsibilities’, I am here saying that taking a ‘mental health’ day is important every once in a while.

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Take a lesson from Tom and Donna from Parks and Rec who on the show take one day to ditch all responsibilities, stress, and worrying about how much everything costs to indulge in the things they love (mainly shopping). They have a point, why shouldn’t we take one day a month, or even one day a week to stop worrying over the little things and go get that pedi we’ve been wanting so badly?

It’s all about balance. 

All work and no play, makes us all super overworked, overtired, and no fun to be around. We can’t make work 100% of our lives, and we can’t make taking care of every one else around us 100% of our lives either- balance, balance, balance.

Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers you love, get that shirt you’ve been dying to buy, lay in bed all day and binge watch Orange Is The New Black, read a really great book, sleep in until noon. The list is endless of how you can indulge in this ‘treat yo self’ way of life. The most important part is that you leave work and your worries behind, and do something that will make YOU happy. Because this ‘mental health’ day is all about YOU.

Sometimes we need to take a back seat, stop fixing everyone else, stop pushing ourselves so hard, and just take a day to enjoy life a little. Whatever that means to you-do it. There is nothing wrong with taking a day for yourself. You don’t need all of your friends to ditch their plans to enjoy a day like this. Because remember, it’s about treating yourself not others.

As the summer months keep rolling in, balance is key (insert key emoji here). We have cookouts after cookouts, traveling to do, work to keep up with, and although it can be a really fun time, it’s also a time when we tend to burn ourselves out. So, remember to take a day for you and treat yo’ self.

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So It’s Gonna to Be Forever, Or It’s Gonna Go Down In Flames

Whether you’re young, middle-aged, old, love is always a part of our lives. Chasing love, lust, desire, ‘the one’, the one night stand, the one you can fix, the one that’ll break your heart-constantly chasing. But it’s a chase, a game rather, that we can’t seem to get enough of.

He doesn’t text, we mull it over for days. She dodges you in the halls, you decide to make her jealous with another girl. You fight like a war is about to break, and yet you can’t break away from each other. The game of love can either feel like a paradise we’ve been waiting to reach our whole lives, or like there are flames swarming through the home we built, and we can’t seem to get out of it.

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The best kind of love is when you can take away the lust, the one night stands, the fixing, the control, the jealousy, the fighting-and just love. But, not all of us are lucky to find that the first time around, or the second, or the third. For some reason we don’t learn from our mistakes, we can’t take the blinders off and realize how toxic a relationship is until it’s broken us down to pieces.

I’ve been there, we all have. Not only is it a hard thing to admit when a relationship isn’t working, but it’s even more difficult to pull away from said relationship.

We all want to be loved, but at what cost? When you’re personal freedom, success, and dreams are thrown to the side for a toxic relationship, is it worth it?

I’d say, no. But I’ve also been in the haze of not realizing that a relationship wasn’t really going anywhere towards paradise, but rather towards those flames (the bad kind, that burn your shit to the ground).

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So my point? My advice? Don’t let the game of love destroy YOU. You’ll know when the right ‘one’ comes along, but until then focus on your success and most importantly, your happiness.

There is no rule that says you need to chase a failing relationship no matter what, that you don’t need to be with your significant other because it’s ‘comfortable’, or because you know nothing else.

Sometimes people turn out to be something we never even imagined. They lie, cheat, and steal our happiness when we thought they would create a happily ever after for us. But, that’s okay. Because whether you believe it or not, life goes on even when you have to let those people go (and usually goes on for the better).

So, let the rain pour down, wipe away the flames, and do you.

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