We all fail. It’s a fact of life. We fail, we make mistakes, we make bad calls (like maybe I shouldn’t have eaten all of the cake last night)- but what’s truly important is how we recover from those bumps in the road. You may not get it right the first few times, or even the first ten times, but keep trying, because you will succeed.
You may be skeptical of this if you’ve recently experienced one too many bumps in your road- I get it, I’ve been there (maybe still am a little). However, there is nothing more rewarding than being able to say you’ve gotten through x, y, and z and have landed where you are today because of what seemed like a huge failure at the time.
If you’re currently battling a rough patch on your journey called life, I’m not saying there is some magic quick fix. There’s no ’30 days to a less shitty life’ shake that you can take. But, there are some steps that you can take to get in a better state of mind (because I know you’re probably stressing), and eventually into a better place in your life.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back out there.
So yes, that guy cheated on you and you are failing three classes- cry about it (you’re allowed to), but then it’s time to get yourself together. You won’t want to, you’ll probably want to continue moping on the couch with your bag of chips and rom coms, but you need to get your shit together. Those classes aren’t going to fix themselves, and that guy is clearly not worth you ruining the other part of your life for.
What can you learn from all of the trial and error?
Okay, you’ve tried dieting a million times and it hasn’t worked. You’ve applied to a million jobs and heard nothing back. You keep failing your math exams. Instead of letting this trend continue, take a step back. Ask yourself what you can learn from these mistakes, ask yourself what you could do differently if the same old isn’t cutting it, and then get to work.
Advocate for yourself.
If a failure or mistake has occurred in your life at the hand of someone else, it may be time to stand up for yourself. If you feel like a failure because your boyfriend cheated on you, A) Don’t because you didn’t do it, B) even if this guy won’t give you the time of day-tell him what’s up. Explain to him how what he has done has affected you, then move on to bigger and better things.
Move on, you’ve done the best you can.
The only way you are going to change your current situation after what feels like a major blow to your life, is to move on. Forgive yourself or whomever has caused this bump in your road-and then make a plan on how you are going to overcome it. There is no sense in beating yourself up for the rest of eternity just because something didn’t work out.
Failure is never the end of your story. Maybe it’s a messy middle plot twist that you wish you didn’t have to go through, but it’s never the ending. So, if you’re feeling like life is caving in around you-remember it’s not your end. Stick to your story, your journey-what ever that may be. And just because your car broke down, you didn’t get your dream job, you failed an exam-it’s all okay, your world will not end. As long as you keep pushing forward-you’ll cross that finish line.