3 Reasons You Should Try Something New Once A Week

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Do you find that you typically do the same routine every week? Wake up, breakfast, work (or school), maybe the gym, come home for dinner, binge watch some show on Netflix, go to sleep, and start it all over the next day?

Most of us can say that we fall into that pattern. It feels comfortable. It’s what we know. We know what to expect, we know the people we’ll see and speak to each day, and there is a sort of safety net in that predictable day to day life style. 

But, what if we just tried one new thing each week? Maybe it’s a fitness class you’ve been wanting to go to, but haven’t had the courage. Maybe it’s a networking event that you’re too shy to attend. Maybe it’s a new recipe that you think will just end up turning out bad.

Eliminate the ‘what if’s’ and the ‘maybes’, and you could experience some really amazing, different, and fun things once a week.

That means that even for just one hour of your entire week you are; getting out into the world around you, putting yourself out there, and encountering new people, things, culture, food (why would you pass up eating?), etc. So, why not try?

Experiencing something new will break you out of your ‘comfort zone’.

I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again-COMFORTABLE IS NOT FUN. Stop sulking on the couch after work, and get out there! That sounds scary, I know. Your ‘comfort zone’ is there for a reason.

You’ve built yourself into a bubble where you can always know what to expect. But where’s the fun in that?

By breaking out of this bubble you’ve created for yourself you lend yourself to so many new and different opportunities. Sure, some may not be all that great. But, at least you tried them.

You can meet new and like-minded people.

Do you ever feel like the people closest to you don’t appreciate the same types of things you do? Or maybe they don’t encourage you to try the things you’re yearning to in life. Well then, it’s time to start encouraging yourself.

Be your own best friend- get out there, and try that intense boot camp class you’ve been eager to try. There, you may just find the right group of people to motivate you to keep going.

Of course you can still keep those closest to you in your life, but now you have another group who supports your new endeavors into a fitter you, or whatever adventure you may be trying.

You’ll experience a new sense of excitement in your life.

Routines are great. They keep you in check, on track, and organized.

However, at some point they also stop you from stepping out and doing something different.

But, by doing just that you will allow a new sort of happiness, excitement, or thrill into your mind, body, and soul that you didn’t know was possible beforehand.

It’s not always about what looks best on your Instagram feed, it’s what fuels your mind and soul. How will you know if you don’t get out there?

 

So, why not get after it? Wanted to sign up for that intense half marathon this year even though you can’t run more than three miles? Do it. Challenge yourself to get there.

What have you got to lose?

3 Ways to Own Your Success Like The Badass Taylor Swift Wants You to Be

“I’m intimidated by the fear of being average.”

Taylor Swift, in my opinion, gracefully accepted album of the year award for her 1989 album this past February at the Grammy Awards (Yes, I know the buzz over this topic is over but I still have all the feels for this). The controversy over what she stated in her speech, who that speech was really about, and why she even won that award in the first place took up majority of the headlines post-show.

However, if you ignore what she was wearing, her performance, who should or shouldn’t have gotten the ‘Album of the Year’ award, and actually listened to what she said you would realize that we should (whether you like her music or not) be listening to Taylor Swift’s advice, rather than figuring out who she was talking about.
She says,

“As the first woman to win album of the year at the Grammy’s twice, I want to say to all the young women out there: there are going to be people along the way who will try to undercut your success or take credit for your accomplishments or your fame,”

“But if you just focus on the work and you don’t let those people sidetrack you, someday when you get where you’re going. You’ll look around and you’ll know it was you and the people who love you who put you there and that will be the greatest feeling in the world.”

An amazing closing to (in my opinion) a much deserved win, because let’s face it-she put in the work to make that album what it was. She created that music, the vision, the outcome.

Swift of course had her squad behind her for support, but she did not let anyone sidetrack her from becoming the success that she is today.

And, neither should you. Take Swift’s speech, and apply it in your own life. You’ll find that only magic can come of the following;

Advocate for yourself.

Did your boss, professor, colleagues, or whomever try to dismiss a really great idea? Maybe they completely took credit for your flawless presentation at work. Maybe they stole the show and told you someone else should have your job.

Well, now it’s time to stand up for yourself.

You deserve the spotlight every now and then for the hard work that you put into your work. Advocate for yourself, don’t let that spotlight shine on that one guy in the group project who did nothing but get’s the A.

Don’t let them get in your head.

Like T. Swift has obviously experienced, there will be sh*t talkers, probably a lot of them.

They will tell you what you should or should not be doing, that you’re not good enough, that your work is not up to their standards.

Take it with grace.

Then, go work your a** off some more, and prove it to yourself that you are better than the sh*t talkers who do just that-talk.

Stay true to yourself.

Through it all-whatever you are working hard for, don’t forget to stay true to what you believe in.

They’ll try to sway your opinion, tell you to do X instead of Z, criticize you-but don’t let that stop you from being you.

You have a goal or a dream that you wish to accomplish, so do it. Go for it. It may not be as large scale as winning album of the year, but that doesn’t matter.

What does matter is that you do it, no matter how many people try to push you off course. Stay true to your goals, and you will succeed.

The one’s who support you, they’ll understand the blood, sweat, and tears that you’ve put into your work. And, just like Tay says-that’s what matters.

Those are the people that will matter, and will be there cheering for you at the end. So, remember who you are through it all, remember who stuck by you even if your ideas sounded insane, and forget about the one’s who tried to derail you from your success.

Take Taylor Swift’s advice. Change career roles, dye your hair flaming red, eat that chocolate cake-but don’t let anyone step in your way while doing it.

Own your experiences, own your choices, and own your success.

Because ultimately, they are yours to keep.

Not In Love With Your Life? Stop Playing It Safe

 

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“I only see my goals, I don’t believe in failure”

At twenty-four, I’m clearly still learning a whole lot about life. The ups, the downs, what really matters, and what doesn’t-the list goes on.

What has been made crystal clear for me sounds simple, but seems to be one of the most difficult decisions: doing what we love.

See? Doesn’t it sound like a piece of cake, and yet there are so many of us out there going day in and day out with a job, relationship, etc. that is not in line with what we truly crave out of this world.

Most of the time it is the fear of failure, the fear of doing something different, the fear that we won’t make enough money, the opinions of others-again the list is endless.

But what is the point in truly living the most passionate, exciting, challenging life possible if you’re truly not in love with what you’re doing. This can really go for anything in our lives.

You may be thinking about your career, but this can also be applied to your relationships with people in your life, your fitness goals, where you’re living. If you don’t wake up every single morning excited about the day before you (okay, I know not every morning is going to be rainbows and unicorns but still), then isn’t it time for a change?

Be brave, step out of your comfort zone.

Our comfort zone is just that, comfortable. A cozy blanket that we don’t want to be taken away from us on a really cold night. But sometimes, you really just need to rip that band aid off and step your game up.

Safe is comforting, and great. But, what if you could do something that truly opened your mind, body, and soul up to amazing opportunities? Wouldn’t that be worth ditching the warm blanket for?

Settle for nothing.

If you are miserable going to work every single day, change it. Maybe you can’t quit right now, but start thinking outside of the box.

What can you do to make each morning a little more bearable? Can you cut out an hour of your day to start applying to new jobs (yes, you can!).

Do not waste your talent, or your passion for this crazy life for a mediocre life that doesn’t excite you.

Being a risk taker doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.

Nope, you’re not a crazy rebel because you decided to put yourself out there and try something different. It just means that you’re willing to try something new, and really open your heart and mind up to new experiences. And that my friends, is a beautiful thing.

Yes, maybe those experiences will suck. Maybe you’ll wonder why you decided to try that after all. OR: Maybe, you’ll grow as a person because of those experiences. Maybe, you’ll help someone else because of the amazing risks you took.

Not everything is going to go as planned. This past year I took a leap of faith and stopped teaching to pursue my dream of writing, and moved myself to NYC. Has it been difficult at times? Absolutely. But do I regret taking the risk? Not one bit. Playing it safe didn’t make me happy, but breaking out of my comfort zone (as scary as it was, and still is sometimes)-that made me happy.

So, try being a risk taker. It doesn’t have to be as drastic as quitting your job and moving. It could be as simple as doing something about that hole in your life that leaves you feeling unfulfilled. What could fill that hole to make you a better, happier, more passionate person?

Figure it out, stop settling, and be that risk taker.

Being in love is a wonderful, crazy, magical experience-so choose to be in love with your life.

Keep Going: Giving Up Is Not An Option

Some days, weeks, months, years-they feel never ending. They feel like a constant tornado is disrupting your life, and the black cloud over your head doesn’t want to fade away.

The sun isn’t shining, it feels like bricks are being thrown in your way, and you just want to fold.  But, I’m here to tell you that’s not an option.

I feel you-I’m dealing with the above as we speak. I’ve shed one too many tears a recently because it just doesn’t seem like life is ever going to go my way. But it will, eventually. Right now (even to me) that’s not really helping, but sometimes we need to take a back seat for a minute and think about the big picture in front of us.

Life is like a puzzle box with a million pieces inside. They all will fit together eventually, but it may take a really long f*cking time to get it. You may be sitting on that sky right now thinking that the hundreds of blue pieces cannot possibly go together. But they will. It just takes time, a new perspective, a little time away from the project- a new mindset.

If something isn’t going your way right now, think of it that way. Maybe you need a new perspective that you haven’t thought of. Maybe you need a break from the worry to reshape how you want your puzzle to come together.

Believe me, I know taking the worry, anxiety, fear, etc. out of your headspace when life is shi**y is really difficult. But, you have to try (and I will with you). Meditate, go to a yoga class, read your favorite book, go get that chocolate cupcake from your favorite bakery that you’ve been craving. Even if it’s a short break, it’s worth relieving the constant whirlwind of negative thoughts.

For me, writing this right now with my dog snuggled at my side is my break from the craziness of life. It feels relaxing to get it out, and to know that even though I feel insane, this warm big lump of love next to me doesn’t think so (or maybe he does, whatever-at least he’s snuggling with me).

My point? Everything isn’t always going to be sunshine and rainbows. I guess life wouldn’t really be that interesting if it was, right? So, when you’re at your lowest, when the tornado won’t let up, when you feel like throwing in the towel-remember that giving up is NOT an option.

The tornado will end, the right thing will come to you at the right time, and all of your puzzle pieces will come together to make a badass picture.

Be patient (which is 100% the hardest part for me, but is necessary), don’t stop pushing- you will make it.